I want you to look at your life right now and see where there's chaos.
Are you unorganized with your money? Is your relationship going downhill? Are you constantly feeling sick and rundown? What are you constantly saying to yourself that is putting you in the pit? Are you really following your VITA (life) force or are you living in the shadows? When you don't live from your VITA you will attract chaos and it won't stop until you start Living Your Truth.
For most of my life I was pretending to be something I wasn't, trying to fit in and figure it out. I was exhausted with my efforts and forcing things to happen. If you've ever felt this way you're not alone. Even the smartest clients I work with.. get stuck and in their own way. It does matter if you have a PhD either because your VITA is about being true to yourself and following the path that is in alignment with you.
So what gets in your way?
It's simple and not so simple.
I know for me one of the biggest blocks that was getting in my own way was not feeling worthy enough. As a result, I attracted one relationship after the next that was trying to get my attention. This also was showing up in my business too. (Can you see the relationship between the two?) I kept sweeping it under the rug because somehow I felt being a college educated woman that I knew it all.
When you think you know it all, you really don't. What changed.. It took many breaking down moments of feeling the pain and having reflective awareness. There was a cause an effect for each situation I was attracting. I had to pick myself back up and connect with my deepest desires. I had to create a new way of thinking and being. I made it my mission to not only change the way I was thinking and being but also to empower others to do the same. It's part of what I call living my La Dolce Vita Life. What this means for you is living your truth, being unapolgetically you, and trusting that you are exactly where you need to be in this moment.
When I started to live my truth, I began to attract better relationships. My burn rate was slowing down because each relationship was pushing me to get clear on what I wanted. As a result in the other areas of my life here' what happened...
I doubled my business in one year (I was at a sticking point for way too many years) I attracted my ideal clients that easily paid I opened myself for opportunities without doing any extra marketing I increased my focused and creative ideas
Why did it take me so long? Well, I can be stubborn and I had to keep relearning the lesson through different relationships. You might be able to relate to this and if you do, don't beat yourself up either. You are here to evolve through your story.
You might be thinking "Poor Heather!"
Actually, it couldn't be further from the TRUTH because these lessons have made me the woman, teacher, leader, inspirational speaker and coach I am today. I was doing a TV interview a few months ago and the host asked me if I would change anything in my past and I said, "No, it made me who I am today."
The Importance of Chaos and Challenges
You learn the most from your challenges and if you're going through one right now, realize you're in the perfect place too. It's in these situations that you have to dig deep into your soul and ask quality questions...
What do I really want? What INSPIRES me the most? Who or what is blocking me from getting there?
Clarity will dissolve chaos
Getting clear on your purpose and knowing your values is one of the most important things you can do in your entire life.
Most people don't know who they are and what their values really are and as a result stay stuck. Your values determine in this moment what is running the show. The show is your VITA (life ) so you can change it at any given moment. This should be liberating for you to realize that your past doesn't have to determine where you go.
When I sit down with clients determine their highest values. These 13 simple questions give me insight to show them how to let go and set goals that match who they are at a core level. What else attracts chaos?
Getting clear is the secret to achieving what you want.
The clarity of your vision will determine if you will get there. When you don't know what you want or don't have a clear vision mapped out, any of detail left out of your vision will be the chaos you attract.
If you don't believe me, then look at your chaos in your business or life and tell me what you see. Are you clear or cloudy?
My next question for you is who is still running in the background of your mind? Don't tell me you're completely free of that either because are unconscious mind is like an onion. You need to peel back the layers and release the resentment and negative charges that hold you back from living your true VITA.
You might think on the surface there's not anyone, but I encourage you to look again.
What stories are you holding on to?
What beliefs are holding you back and who told you that?
If you're not 100% in alignment there's a reason why. IMAGINE, if you could let go and feel love and gratitude for everyone in your life..those people that you perceived were mean, didn't approve of you, divorced you, cheated on you, lied, stole, and even passed way?
When you can have love and gratitude for people and you dissolve the emotional baggage it will uncloud your vision and open up you up to possibilities. All to often, we allow the brain noise to get in our way. When we resent people and it takes up what I call Mental Real Estate in your Mind.
It's important to let go and see everyone and everything as part of the divine perfection of the Universe... when you do this, you'll be able to give yourself permission to live your La Dolce Vita Life. I remember hearing this quote that made me realize how we can stop ourselves from living our greatest potential.
"I give myself permission to do something extraordinary on planet earth....
for it is my DESTINY!"
I hope this blog post inspires you today. No matter where you are in the world and with your journey...you have the power to be, do, and have what you want.
Want to have less chaos create more purpose and clarity?